We’ve all heard the same stories about divorce: the parent who does his best to badmouth his ex, the parent who tries to keep the kids away from the ex as some sort of punishment, the parent who manipulates child support payments.These things do happen and plenty of children are harmed because of these and other divorce-related mistakes. Lots of parents understand that divorce is terribly hard on their children.
“Don’t hurry to introduce someone new to your kids,” says Aaron Welch, a licensed therapist with The Lifeworks Group in Winter Park, Fla.
“The tendency is to be very excited that you’ve met someone you really like—especially after a tough divorce.
So, when they are feeling upset, they often act out.
This acting out can come in many forms from temper tantrums, to falling grades, to shutting down and isolating, to experimenting with alcohol, drugs and/or sexual promiscuity. There’s nothing temporary about divorce for kids and acting out can take place during, shortly after or long after the divorce has been finalized.
Kids begin to expect instability and will lose focus and attention in school work and their own friendships. Dads need to learn as much as they can about their significant other before inviting them into their lives.