I believe that we have encountered a spiritual appointment and that our worlds have now connected.
There are relationship endings that do exist whereby one or both parties has genuine concern in regard to creating closure, decency and respect when going separate ways. In fact your trying to gain closure keeps offering the narcissist A Grade Narcissistic Supply.
It supplies attention, and the ability for the narcissist to feel incredibly important that you are so affected by what he or she has done.
For many, forgiving their partner for something terribly hurtful may seem like waving a white flag of surrender, or saying, “Okay fine, I give in, I forgive you.” But healthy forgiveness is not one magical moment where one partner forgives another and they no longer deal with the after-effects of the betrayal.
Real forgiveness is a process, takes time, and is working through the issue with your partner.
She told me we couldn't afford beer anymore and I'd have to quit. So I asked, how come I had to give up stuff and not her. 'You think so much of golf that you don't even remember when we were married.' 'Of course I do, my dear, it was the day I sank that forty-foot putt.' Nigel and Stephen, are keen fishermen and wine drinkers; here you can see a photo taken while they are enjoying some night fishing while on holiday, with their wives, in Poitou-Charente, France, last year.