You do things to please your partner even when you do not want to.
You rely on your partner to define and take care of you.
No one just wakes up one day, looks at her partner and thinks that his happiness is more important than her own.
Not surprisingly, in many cases, codependency has its roots in childhood.
If you believe the song lyrics, soap operas and romantic movies, loving another person more than you love yourself––or life itself––is enviable, even desirable.
But what that sentiment actually refers to is codependency, defined as a relationship in which one person (or sometimes, both) loves the other to such a degree that they exclude their own needs, wants and desires."A small amount of codependency is normal," explains Tracy Prout, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the College of Mount Saint Vincent in Riverdale, New York, and a therapist in private practice in Manhattan.
In fact, it's ALL OF THE OTHER PEOPLE in my life with the issues, and I'm stuck cleaning up their messes."I didn't think I was a codependent person either, until I was slammed into reality one night in a Barnes & Noble aisle.