Friends also said not to be too honest on the first date, meaning I shouldn’t tell them that I am a breast cancer survivor. I’ve been trying the online dating sites since then, but they haven’t gone all that well, either. Wherever she may be, I promise she will have the time of her life with me. Dating is difficult, whether you have cancer or not. (On a positive note, I don’t need a woman to make me happy. Make sure you are happy within yourself before getting into a relationship. It does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
If you want to date but feel reluctant to start, it could also be due to low energy, fatigue, fear of rejection or not wanting to give up control.
If you isolated yourself during treatment, you might have difficulty imagining yourself meeting new people and having fun.
First there's the expanders after surgery to stretch your skin so implants will eventually fit. Then the time comes when you've expanded enough for implants. Try explaining that to the next guy you're dating and want to sleep with. Can you justify when he ghosts - he wasn't the one, it's his loss, I didn't like him that much anyway. Can you believe there is someone out there who will look at you and see you and love what he sees? I am beautiful and I am whole and I am ready for love. Somehow they don't seem to go together, yet they do for millions of women.
I was lucky, a double mastectomy, no chemo, no radiation and no drugs. But taking the breasts off a single woman who is actively dating - that's the tough part! You think it's over now and life will go on as before, but it's not. Having a double means you have no more breast tissue which means no more feeling in your breasts. And a bunch of scars that travel across your breasts like a roadmap. This is the time that you have to truly believe in yourself - when he doesn't call you again after you told him, or he can't understand why you won't let him touch you and he thinks you don't like him, or that you're not even worthy of being loved until your body looks nearly perfect again - you have to believe with your entire being that you're still the same loving, giving, fun and sexy girl you were before your breasts were taken off. This is when you find out how truly healthy or truly damaged your self esteem really is. Proven over and over again by my heart that perseveres no matter how hurt or sad or astonished it has been. Strange bedfellows - single, dating and a double mastectomy.
Having cancer or a history of the disease can make the search for a relationship seem intimidating.