I, too, have heard many times from Iranian men (or men from any of the middle-eastern cultures for that matter) that they are happy to date American or non-Iranian women, but that they would never marry one.
I was genuinely shocked, and tried to play it off like I wasn’t such an ignorant American thinking that Persian women were just bundled up virginal victims. While the laws in Iran are extremely stringent for woman, to think of them merely as victims of their government robs them of their agency.
The women are in charge.” “Yeah, modern men are like that right now.
It is when you can not stop thinking and asking yourself over and over if he loves you as much as you do, or even “Is he in love at all?
” These are the most legitimate questions for a Persian woman to ask.
Now, perhaps if you were able to get statistics on the numbers of girls who were virgins in each culture, the numbers might be skewed in the direction of the more liberal culture.