“Its the smoking and lack of sleeping; its hard to share your life with someone when you need to explain further why you do these things,” she says.
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Community member Andrea Mamun says: “Meeting online takes the inhibition out of the mix.
It’s easier putting it out in writing than in person.” Nancy Hunt-Mc Donald agrees that sharing online is a great option and suggests telling a potential date right away: “If they can’t accept you the way you are, then you haven’t really invested too much of yourself in the relationship.” Mary Ellen Rotolo puts her health status in her online profile, noting that RA is not something she could hide in person.
Health advocate and blogger Leslie Rott has a three-date rule: “I think it gets harder to tell the longer you wait, and, in reality, you don’t want to be with someone who can’t accept or handle your illness.” Author, TV personality, and children’s advocate Christine Schwab recommends holding off, saying it is a discussion for a serious relationship: “I am not saying ignore your RA; talk to your doctor or your therapist, but not your date.
It can kill the best of dates.” Chris Lowthian also prefers not to disclose before a date: “I just want to go out and have a good time! When it comes to revealing the fact that they have RA, a number of Creaky Joints members say they turn to social media.
Dating is difficult under the best of circumstances. To answer these and other relationship questions, Creaky Joints, the arthritis advocacy group, asked its thousands of Facebook followers for dating advice. Deciding when to tell a potential date that you have a chronic illness can be a tough call: Do you tell the person right away so that it is not a surprise?