Or do you go the “mass appeal” route, and fire off the same message to 15-20 women in that same amount of time? You spend 20 minutes composing The Perfect Message. The point is, that's 20 minutes of your life you'll never get back.You’ve read her profile, Googled that author she mentioned four times, and managed to tactfully point out your similarities without sounding desperate. According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, users on his site exchange about 4 million messages – a day. In his book, ‘Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking’, Rudder weighs in on whether a canned message actually works, or if women see through that BS in an instant.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.
I won't share personal communication with you, but I will tell you this: The best ones I've gotten are ones that have commented about SPECIFIC things in my profile..not in the first two sentences of it...pretty far down.I know they had to have read the whole thing... But, if you do get any responses, you really should have asked the moreimportant question. He commented on the fact that I can string a sentence together, have a sense (not sence) of humour, made him laugh and restored his faith in the fairer sex....
What did they do, and what ultimately became of it? I think thats a compliment...gonna go and check now!
And then there are the ones with spelling and grammatical errors.