With rugrats in the picture, there’s zero chance you’ll ever be the top person in this woman’s life—but that window of narcissism was short-lived anyway (if it existed at all).
So, when she says her ex has him for the night, consider it excellent news. The timeline on real-life offspring will likely be age-dependent: Babies have no idea you exist. Show kindness and a semblance of liking kids—but don’t go overboard or kiss her munchkin’s ass. Even with modern fertility science, all tadpoles come with some sort of father.
Note: This doesn’t mean sex will happen at her place. Talk to him as if he were your boss’s wife or a dental assistant. Chances are there will be four parties in this relationship: you, her, her kid—and the Birth Father.
On one hand, you can hardly contain your enthusiasm for your new love interest.
Yet, you may be plagued with questions about when and how to introduce your kids.
The most promising and successful scenario in dating someone with a child involves you knowing – with no doubts or hesitations – that you want kids.